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Sunday, December 7, 2014

Major factors that influenced my decision to become a soldier


Everyone has been so supportive in me joining the military so I don’t feel like I have to explain myself.  But I have often thought about what lead me to this decision.  I have always used writing as a way to facilitate brainstorming which is where this list came from.  These are some of the major factors that influenced my decision to become a soldier:

Camp Maple Dell:
One of my favorite jobs.   For two straight summers I slept in military tents, started the day with a flag ceremony and I shot a lot of weapons.  I knew that the structure, pride, and honor I experienced working at this Boy Scout camp would be similar to what I would experience in the military. This was the first time in my life I wanted to join the military.  With the flag ceremonies and retirements it was also the proudest I have felt for my country.

Other fitness/therapy Programs:
No one else uses exercise as specifically as I do, but there are plenty of other exercise programs out there to improve mental health.  After reading an article about another fitness program using exercise as a means to treat mental health issues of criminals, mom sent me a message to get my program going.  But I didn’t know who to market to.  I am familiar with most of the treatment fitness programs around and they all seemed to focus on the general public, criminals, and drug addicts.  But there was not enough fitness help for veterans.  I knew that this could be the niche for my program.

P90x:
Yes the Tony Horton fitness infomercial.  On this infomercial there is a vet suffering from PTSD that reported that after completing p90x he no longer needs to take his PTSD medication.  This sparked the interest in how exercise can improve the lives of veterans. 

This video:
No explanation needed.  One of the most powerful videos I ever watched.  Truly life-changing for me.  I still can’t watch it without goose bumps and tears.



Dealing with career criminals:
I think the moment that really pushed me to go talk to a recruiter was after a very difficult situation that nearly ended in multiple people’s death.  After the situation was successfully diffused I realized that it would be nice to work with clients who did not have an extensive history of legal issues and mental illness.  I discovered that those types of people would not be able to enter into military service, making soldiers a great clientele to have.

Military Clients:
I have worked with and have an expertise with many different types of clients from youth to adults; addicts to autistics.  I have been asked many times who my favorite clients to work with are.  I enjoy working with and I can learn from everyone who come into my sessions.  Though one group I might prefer over the other I definitely have a favorite: current and former military personnel.   Of all my clients I can remember military the most.  I remember their stories and feeling somewhat inadequate in my current ability to help them.  I have an interest in working with veterans, but not the expertise.

Heritage:
I held this job for the longest in my professional career.  I worked in a calm/chaotic environment which I loved.  Even though as a therapist I deal with the aftermath of a crisis, I usually don’t deal directly in a crisis.  Too be honest, I have missed the adrenaline rush that comes from resolving altercations.  I feel my sense of adventure will be satisfied through my military service.

A life of fitness:
From college soccer to personal training I have always been able to live a life of fitness.  But I have seen it being reduced since I hung up my collegiate cleats.  All my jobs before becoming a therapist also demanded I be in great physical health.  I want a job like that again.  The military has fitness standards that would keep me in great shape.

Employment benefits:
To be honest this is also a big factor.  Insurance is expensive and money is tight.  Even though the reserve paycheck itself is not that substantial, the benefits are.  It is hard for me to only work one job.  I wanted to have a part-time job on top of my career as a mental health therapist. The army reserves will be a great part-time job that gives me tons of experience.  Therapy has its financial ups and downs, so adding a consistent and steady job can provide a great anchor of stability for my family.

A higher standard:
As my wife knows, I am really hard on myself.  I feel that I have very high standards (you can tell by who I married).  Being a father, Mormon, therapist, soldier, and even a Military Police, I am being pushed to have standards above the rest of the world.  I feel this helps to lead me toward perfection.


OTHER THOUGHTS
I have been doing a lot of studying about military training and military life.  I am beginning to paint a picture of what it will be like and I am also creating a blueprint on how I can be a benefit.  These pictures aren’t all meadows and sunshine.  Dim clouds of worry and doubt obscure part of this new sunrise.

My hopes:
The Military Police position was not available when I first wanted to join the Army.  There was multiple delays with entering the military and I feel that this was because the time needed to be right so that I could choose the best career.  I hope o not only be a soldier that my comrades can come to for help, but also the people I may be dealing with.  This position will allow me to be in contact with those who have fallen into hard times.  I hope to gain experience helping those in trouble find their way out.  Deployed Military police are also in danger of IEDS, RPGs, and PTSD.  As a military policeman I hope to be a help to those who are struggling to deal with the stress of their deployment.  I also hope to advance in my military career so that I can extend my connections and be a greater help to others.

My excitements:
I am excited for the training, and the physical and mental challenges.  I am excited to learn new things and develop new friendships.  I am excited to grow and experience what it is like to be a soldier.  I am excited to develop new skills and to improve my current abilities. I am excited to be called a soldier, especially by my children.

My Worries:
I am worried about the time away from my family.  I am worried that I might change in a negative way.  I am worried about being deployed.   I feel my words are a strong tool and I am worried that I will be in situations that create barriers of communication to those who I want to help.

Bottom line:
I really want to make a difference in this world and I felt like I couldn’t do that if there were people I would have to turn away.  Joining the military will allow me to help more people in more places.  I will be able to get more experience and will be prepared for more situations.  This is not a career change, but a way to advance my career even more.  As the Army Motto states “Always Forward!”


Wednesday, July 4, 2012

A year later!

I hadn't realized that it has been over a year since my last post! Sorry for not keeping things up to date.  My life is pretty similar to last year's update.  But there have been some dramatic changes too!
I'm still at heritage, but instead of being a part time teacher i got hired on fulltime as the addiction counselor for the boys at the school.  I'm getting internship credit for this!  It is way more stressful than my last position and i'm excited to go back to my old job.  This counseling position is temporary.  The previous counselor was in a car accident so because of my counseling experience they hired me until the other counselor has recovered.
This is not my only intership site.  Finding a site wasn't easy and after 28 rejections i finally found one thanks to Jen!  Since febuary i have been working at Addiction and Psychological Services (APS) running group and individual therapy for my clients.  Most of my clients are sent from the courts to complete therapy.  It is a really enjoyable experience and i love working as a therapist!
Because of all the internship hours i am getting i am hoping to graduate a semester early in December.  I have 5 months left, but i am experiencing some major senioritis.  I can't wait to be done with school!  a semester and a half to go!
Summer is boiling at its fullness now and i am still coaching soccer goalkeepers for Arsenal SC.  I'm not coaching as much as i did last year, but i'm still fitting in a few keepers every week.
I still have a pulse so i am still playing soccer.  Alexa and i both enjoy playing pick up soccer at Timp indoor twice a week and we are on a top level coed team.  I'm also playing in the Salt Lake Premeire league on a team called Pan World.  I enjoy the competition it is comparible to my years at UVU.

I am definetely ready for a break from business.  Working 3 jobs and being in school isn't fun.  There are some days that i leave at 730 am and don't get home until 1030 at night.  It really sucks leaving before my kids wake up and coming home after they have gone to sleep.  Sometimes i really miss playing with them.



As a needed break/father's day/ Landon's birthday present me and Landon went camping. Just the two of us. It was a blast! everything went perfect, me and Landon explored the mountain, sat around the campfire, and slept soundly in the tent.  Landon loved collecting wood with me, chasing butterflies, and with my help he loved shooting my pistol crossbow.



It's hard to believe that i have a four year old.  Even more incredible is that this year i am celebrating my fifth year of marriage!  Alexa and I have a strong marriage.  It helps that i married my best friend and everyday we make each other better.  She is the biggest inspiration for me.  She has such determination and is an incredible mom and wife.
She is also working along with being a fulltime mom.  at the end of last year we moved into a house at storage facility.  Alexa works every day.  It's a great gig allowing alexa to work at home.
Being busy means progress, so i can't complain. And that's my life.

Saturday, June 25, 2011

Latest update

My life has gotten pretty busy. I know that's expected in the summer, but wow, i don't have a lot of free time anymore.
I'm still working at Heritage treatment center as a teacher for the kids to unstable to attend the on campus school. I love my job! It's exciting and interesting, and I feel like i have a lot of freedom in my "classrooms." This job is perfect for me. It's in my area of interest, and it gives me valuable psychological experience which prepares me for my next job after my master's degree.
I'm attending full time at Argosy University to get my Master's degree in mental health counseling. I hope to be finished with my degree when the world ends Dec 2012.
Even though my real profession doesn't start until after a Master's degree, i'm putting my bachelor's degree to some use. My undergraduate was in Psychology and P.E. i want to use exercise and fitness as a tool as a therapist. Even though i can't give counseling, i can at least help people with their body. I'm running a fitness for the mind blog:
acceleratefitnessandtherapy.com
I'm not able to play soccer as much, but it's still a major part in my life. right after i get off work at heritage i take to the soccer field as a goalie coach. I'm running a goalkeeper camp for Arsenal soccer club. I got a cool bio on their website:
www.utaharsenalsc.org/training
With soccer camps, Heritage, and argosy, i have 12 hour work days every weekday except for Thursday when i have classes. Alexa is so understanding. I envy that she gets to spend so much time with my incredible boys, but I'm honored to make the sacrifice. There is no one better who can raise them. We each play our own but important part to give everything to our kids. I love my wife so much! I know time is spent working when I'd rather be at home with my family, and i try to spend ever second i can with them. Just as it is important spending quality time with each special member of my family, i also know that time will not be as special if i don't give myself some time too. I'm on a soccer team, but it's more of a weekend warrior thing (And most of my games are before they wake up). We all know that a little time to ourselves is needed so that time together is more treasured.
Landon is officially and completely potty trained. He has gone a month without a diaper (neither training or typical) neither day or night and without an accident. We just celebrated his 3rd birthday. He's already growing up to quickly.
Kyler has been able to pull himself up into the pushup position by himself and is getting too mobile. He wants to crawl walk and stand all by himself already. He has a few teeth that poked through which has eased his temperament, but i think round two is soon to begin...
So this is my life for the next little while, i can't think of a busier time in my life, but the busier you are the more progress your making. I know after climbing this hill i'll be able to coast back down. I'm pushing to get to the crest, but excited to be over it.

Sunday, April 10, 2011

Accelerate Fitness and Therapy

Check out my new blog!

http://acceleratefitness.blogspot.com

Saturday, September 11, 2010

Where was God

It's the ninth anniversary of the attack on the world trade center. Many people asked this question, and I've heard others say that they don't believe in God because of the bad things that happen in the world today. Here's my answer.

Where Was God
The towers fell and people cried
Where was God when those people died?
A cry that echoed throughout the ages
Where is God when chaos rages?
Where was God when disaster struck?
Where is God when we run out of luck?
Where was God when things went wrong?
He was their all along
He was in the towers, He was on the plane
He saw the death He felt the pain
He was so close when his children died
For every tear that fell, He also cried
Being the loving parent is almost a curse
Standing watching your children do their worst
Why didn’t He use his power and voice?
But they wouldn’t have listened and he gave them choice
He used His power so we could be free
To act on our own and be what we be
His gift to us he won’t take away
No matter how wrong our choices stray.
But where is God when life gets grim
He’s next to us hoping we’ll remember Him

Wednesday, August 25, 2010

IT’S TIME

Come with me it’s time to go
Come my child please take my hand
We’ll go to a place you still love and know
I’m sure others will not understand
Come with me it’s time to go
There is no reason you should fear
It’s been a joy to watch you grow
You’ve done all you can down here
Come with me it’s time to go
Follow my angelic voice
I am your friend not your foe
But now’s not the time for choice
Come with me it’s time to go
I’m the only one to blame
No one here has been a foe
For your absence no need for shame
Come with me it’s time to go
Though most will say it’s before your prime
The right way home I will show
God chose you for this time
Come with me it’s time to go
You’ve been chosen ahead of them
Grab my robe as white as snow
Know you’ll see them all again
Come with me it’s time to go
You’ve been called for greater things
When passed the veil you will know
The glory this transition brings
Come with me it’s time to go
Pain and sorrow are behind you now
Come with me it’s time to go
Come to the light I’ll show you how
Come with me it’s time to go
I am your angel here in death
Come with me it’s time to go
And take your last needed breath

Sunday, August 1, 2010

For my wife of 3 years

I Never Tell You I love You Enough

I never tell you I love you enough
It’s not that I’m shy it’s not that it’s tough
I just forget to use the word
Even though I know it needs to be heard
Seeing your beauty every day
I always feel that special way
And my blank mind starts to steal
The words of love I always feel
And I often forget to say
The love I always have each day
So I say it in different ways
But not in words as often conveys
I say it with acts and works I do
I always try and show I’m true
I say it with trying to put you first
But my words are always one of my worst
I say it with kisses as much as I find
I say it with gestures I try to unwind
I say it with touches and hugs from your man
I say it in any way that I can
I say it with eyes that sometimes stare
I say it in help as the work load we share
I say it with gifts of useless stuff
But still I don’t tell you I love you enough
So if I forget to say love that way
Know that I love you every day